Like most of us, I get this question pretty regularly. Unlike most people, it seems if I respond with good or even great and no more detail, some folks look disappointed. I think the question they really want to ask me is “What kind of side effects are you dealing with, what’s your mental health, and/or what does the future hold?” I purposefully rarely answer these questions, unless asked specifically.
One of the things that I’ve learned living with cancer is that it’s critical to stay in the moment, focused on the right now. When people ask me how I’m doing I tell them how I’m doing right then. I make a point of not going into those other details for the simple reason it would take me out of the moment and force me to dwell on unpleasant topics. After providing my answer I’d then be stuck in my cancer mess trying to get back in the moment. Not a good way to start a get together for me at least.
There may be times when I “open up” and go into detail, but don’t expect it. Even these YAPCaB posts are hard for me, but at least they provide my experiences for other cancer patients and inform people who care about what’s going on with me.